Whether you’re starting a new chapter in life; you want to re-vamp your social life; or create a social life, you will always be in situations with new people. You always have a chance to make new friends.
Here are six easy and proven ways to make new friends:
1. Be truly interested in other people.
In his long-lived self-help book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie says, “If we merely try to impress people and get people interested in us, we will never have many true, sincere friends…real friends are not made that way.”
People can tell if you’re being real or fake. They make judgments within five seconds after you begin speaking.
Instead of talking about yourself, ask someone something about them. That way, they’re more likely to take an interest in you as well.
You’ll be pleasantly surprised at how quickly you can make friends.
Your smile can light up a room, but only if you show it.
A fake smile fools no one. Everyone hates those.
Carnegie says, “Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, ‘I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.’”
If you want people to enjoy meeting you, you need to enjoy meeting them.
In an effort to make new friends this school year, do this simple thing that means a lot. Smile.
3. Remember that a person’s name is their favorite word.
Think of how it makes you feel when someone remembers your name. How about someone who hasn’t seen you in a long time?
Say your own name in a positive tone. Now say it as if you’ve accomplished one of your biggest dreams. Do you feel those butterflies?
This is how mostly everyone feels when they hear their name. People remember the person who remembers their name.
You can use any special techniques you want, but the bottom line is if you remember someone’s name, they are much more likely to become your friend than if you call them “that one guy who sits in the corner.”
4. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
When you show interest in others, they will show interest in you.
People will think you’re a master conversationalist if you listen more than you talk.
There is no better way to flatter someone than by listening. Just as a fake smile is obvious, fake listening stands out in a negative way.
5. Talk in terms of what benefits the other person.
When you talk in terms of what benefits the other person, what you’re really doing is interesting people.
On some level, everyone is secretly looking out for their best interest. Whether they consider others first or not, they would still like to be benefited when doing something.
So if you can talk in terms of what benefits the person you’re talking to, you’ll not only catch their interest, but you’ll see them start to be your friend.
6. Make the other person feel important – and be real about it.
This should be called How to Make People Like You Instantly because there’s no way to make someone like you without first making them feel important.
It requires a desire to be a positive part of the lives of others as well as a genuine attitude.
Before you speak, think. Ask yourself, “What do I like about this person?”
If you don’t know a person but want to; you are walking by them in the hallway, outside, or wherever, look at them in the eye, smile and say, “hi.”
Even the smallest of effort like this can go a very long way.
Go make new friends!!